Relationships are hard! Am I right? You have family, friends, clients, work friends, networking pal’s and most likely even more than that. How do we keep up… especially when we feel the need to have our faces tipped forward peering into our phones 24/7, that’s important to maintain. *FOMO anyone?
As I progress in age (nice way of saying getting old) I have become pretty selective of whom I spend my free time with. I expend a lot of energy and brain power on clients everyday, and sometimes there’s just nothing left in the tank. However… when there is, I like to go out! Drink some wine, cocktail it up at new cool place, and be with people I really enjoy and look forward to seeing… and of course people watch, I’m a curious girl!
Ever have that little tingle of anxiety creep in and start your tummy rumbling and your thoughts racing when you think about a meet-up you typed into your calendar a month or so ago with an old friend, a co-worker or some douche ya never liked in the first place, but keeps blowing up your phone, UGH! They’re the worst! Is it worth going? Alcohol helps, haha. BUT maybe, just maybe, it’s a good exercise in character building. Stay with me here.
Here’s what I’ve learned about taking the meet-up, showing up, sucking it up and just going; most of the time I enjoy myself, it gets me out of my sweats and sleep shirt (I’m super purdy during the work day) and provides social interaction, information exchange (what are you watching?) biz ideas you’ve never thought of. Ya see, I work alone all day, in front of a computer and I DO need adult interaction to keep my social skills sharp, wouldn’t want to turn into Ms. Socially Awkward (we all know one). New clients, networking, going to conferences, all need “Katie the extrovert” to show up. Why am I writing about this? Recently I heard the term “introvert-extrovert” which referred to a new term, *ambivert, it’s a word… Google it!
Soooo, I have decided I am an ambivert (I think my daughter is too, shhh I’m not supposed to talk about her) and here’s why. I am socially cool, I can jump start a convo with a stranger, I can grab a mic and share my thoughts or blast out “Shoop” at Rockbox in front of a crowd. I feel fairly confident with my fashion choices and I can shimmy up on any group of people and feel comfortable saying “Hey!”. However, I find people annoying, I need “my space” a lot, I love working alone in my home office and I’m a book worm and a tech nerd… I also shrink away from groups when someone is over-powering everyone (don’t you just hate those people?). I LOVE wine o’clock alone, and it takes me forever to leave the house. Secretly I think it’s because I don’t want to be “on” most of the time. I hope you learned a little something from my personality confession, maybe you can relate. Remember, there’s no one like you, don’t try to be like someone else, they’re already taken.
Fist bump your device if you’re a rad ambivert too!
*Someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion